Week 47: Being alone!!

 Dear reader, 

"Having no one else present" 

Being alone is something that happens to a lot of people, whether you are at an old age or you are a young person. This year many people have been or will be alone for most of the year. Because of travel restrictions and lock downs people have not been able to go out and socialize like they were used to. Not with the holidays around us, shorter and darker days, economic and social uncertainty these times can hit hard for people that are being alone. 

I try to stay positive and talk about fun and interesting things. But unfortunately for me this is subject I can relate to. With no real long relationships, being an introvert and having no job at the moment is tough. There are moments when you feel lonelier then others and it is a test to see how strong you are to be by yourself. This week I am going to talk about loneliness, how it is affecting us during a pandemic and how you can make it into your success. 

Loneliness: 

Loneliness is the feeling that we have when being alone, it is the sadness of not having any friends or company around. For many people loneliness goes along with mental stability take for example prisoners, if you would someone in a room with no window and all by themselves they will go crazy. That is why 65% of all the prisoners in the United States have mental health problems. 

Lucky we are free and for us confinement like a prison is not the issue. For me loneliness can be hard sometimes. Like I mentioned in the introduction, being an introvert and not having a lot of experience with relationships it can get tough sometimes. For me it would be nice to tell someone what happened, whether you feel good or sad, share a joke or call over for a dinner or movie. But it can be a good time to work on yourself and become an even better person. 

loneliness during a pandemic: 

This pandemic has been extra hard for different age groups that already have been lonely such as elderly. They have no chance at all that anyone will check up on them or can give them the care the need or deserve. According to the mental health foundation in the UK the largest increase in loneliness was the age group 18 to 24. Before the pandemic they had a loneliness rating of 16% and during the pandemic it went up to 44%. Because of schools, bars and social life closing this group is left just like the elderly, alone. 

For me the pandemic has been hard to, lucky I have been able to go to work and see most of my colleagues. Not being able to go outside and staying restricted would have been terrible for me. You do feel lonelier during the pandemic because all you activities whether it is a social one are not were gone. The chances of meeting new people during the pandemic are slim. Sometimes you just want or need a hug and someone that tells you it will all be fine.

Make loneliness your success: 

Because of all the technology that we have at your disposal it is easier than ever to talk and see other people. Whether your are on zoom, having a meeting or social distancing drinks with your friends, there is always a way to connect. It also brings out the most inspiring ideas out in people, to do more things for another and check up on each other a bit more then usually. You can follow your classes online and part of your social life can continue on the internet. 

For me my success has been working on things I really wanted and needed to do for myself, By being alone it gave me time to think about what I really want to achieve and what I needed to do. You might have read some of these things in my earlier blogs. Also by keeping myself busy with my blog, company and my investments I am continuously working. Once you start to feel bored you start to thing and question specific things and the answers you might get cannot be what you hoped for. 

Loneliness is something to always keep in mind and watch out for, it can be depressing or an opportunity. It is just the way you are able to look at it. It is the time that you can do whatever you want when you want and how you want it. The best thing to do is to stay busy, eat healthy and exercise. Once you fall for the trap of laziness loneliness will follow right behind you.

Thank you for reading and see you next week.

Franklin, Moments2Successs